A Brilliant Formula for Empowerment!
The frustration, the anger, not to mention the ongoing battle between you and your little one – we’ve all been there. With each harsh word and unmet request come sleepless nights and a wave of mental exhaustion for both you and your little one. Yes, life as a mom is challenging, and it’s up to you to find the perfect balance between love and discipline. Is that even possible? Well, luckily for you, the answer to that is yes. So, don’t worry, mama, we’ve got you covered. With these 6 positive parenting kid hacks, you can be weathering those big emotions without anger or judgment, so you and your little one can have a deeper and more rewarding relationship.
1. CREATE A SAFE SPACE
It’s natural. We get overwhelmed, frustrated, and sometimes have a hard time regulating those big emotions that we have. After all, we’re human, and so are our children. Give them a safe place to process and overcome those feelings with your help, whether that be a small sitting area to read or a place where they can distract themselves from those unhappy thoughts or emotions. Your child will be more relaxed, calmer, and more collected in no time, allowing you to communicate effectively and, connect with your kids.
Communication is key. Whether your child is expressing anger, frustration, or temper tantrums, slow down, and listen to them. It may seem like they’re making a whole lot of noise, but with your love, compassion, and a keen ear, you’ll hear a need that’s not being met, and it’s up to you to help them identify it. Ask questions, like what makes them feel the way they are, and dig down deep into what’s genuinely affecting them. After all, you’re their safe place. So, let them talk it out, and be their ear to listen whenever needed.
3. FIND A SOLUTION
You’ve listened, and you’ve found the root of the problem, now you can help them solve it. Coaching your child through massive emotional outbursts is of the utmost importance. Helping your child identify and cope with these emotions is an essential key to every parent-child relationship. After all, they’re learning, and you’re there to walk them through these lessons hand in hand. Helping them understand their problems and work through them now and in their future. And that’s important!
4. CHANGE THEIR PERSPECTIVE
Redirecting a negative thought into that of a positive one has actually been proven to benefit mental health. Teaching your child to flip any negative into a positive is a powerful skill that will be invaluable as they grow up. Did they spill their favorite juice? Oh well, there’s always more! Did they ruin their drawing? Oh well, they can still draw a bigger and better one. Helping them flip that negative thought into a positive one is a great way to encourage your child’s good behavior. They’ll be viewing life in a positive light and looking at you in a positive one as well. Not only will this lead to a happier, healthier mindset in your child, but a happier and more intuitive mom as well.
5. STAY CALM
I know, that’s easier said than done. Sometimes, we lose our cool. There are messes to clean, errands to run, and the tantrum that your little one is throwing on the floor is really not helping. But the truth is, they’re little people with some big emotions, and it’s up to us to help them through it. Our little ones look to us for support and guidance, and we can’t do that if we are adding to the frustration. So, take a deep breath, listen, and be calm in their storm of wild emotions. Together, you can get through anything. I promise, this too shall pass.
6. PRACTICE SELF CARE
The saying ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’ rings a whole lot of truth. In times of chaos with our Little ones, it’s essential to stay calm and collected while being patient and understanding. We lose our ability to do all of those things when we’re tired, short-fused, and just simply burnt out. So, get that full 8 hours of sleep, if you can, and take some quality time to yourself to destress. Pick up that old hobby, or just simply read a book – anything that helps clear your mind. Either way, it will have you feeling refreshed and ready for anything, leaving you to be the best you can be not only for yourself but for your little one as well.